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It's very hard for some blacks to want to assume that they do have racist tendencies within themselves. They'd rather prefer putting it off as being a 'white man's thing', but the opposite is far true.
How many times have you come across a fellow black who habours ill feelings towards you simply because they see you, a black person, in the arms of a woman of another race, or for the ladies, how do you often notice when black women sneer at you when they see you in the arms of your black-skinned lover? And how frightening it is to note that there are such folks here in BP who throw insults at the fellow blacks who indulge in interracial datting.
How many times have you come across a fellow black who habours ill feelings towards you simply because they see you, a black person, in the arms of a woman of another race, or for the ladies, how do you often notice when black women sneer at you when they see you in the arms of your black-skinned lover? And how frightening it is to note that there are such folks here in BP who throw insults at the fellow blacks who indulge in interracial datting.
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Re: Black Racists
Mon, July 21, 2008 - 2:59 PMPhillip you do pose interesting questions. I believe that evrybody is racist to some extent. It's a human thing. I try not to be but I caught myself last week making a racist comment to myself about someone. I thought about it for a long while. I think it's how you deal with those racist thoughts and ideas.
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Re: Black Racists
Mon, December 1, 2008 - 4:26 PMYou did a good job covering your perspective as a black MAN experiencing that kind of thing, or A non black female experiencing it. But I am (and I mean no offense by this) More curious about Black women,s experience with this. How do they experience being with say a white man? Do their daddies get angry too? Do their brothers threaten to, or actually attack her man?
I am sincerely interested in Black women, I unfortunately live where there are few african americans, but their numbers are rising. Which is great, because that means my city is becoming more diverse. It still means however that I have to go places and do things which I don't ordinarily do. Like going to clubs, or listening to music I don't care for. like being some infiltrator just to meet a nice black girl. Then at that I still have to deal with the fact that because we come from two seperate sub-cultures. Basically being American as the only thing we really have in common.
But what about past that? How does this affect her life? I may be able to handle my self around a group of racists. But would she love me enough to run the risk to her, to me, to our children? Will she in the end abandon me claiming safety for all parties? What kinds of pressures are they under?! And what can be done to encourage black women to leave the usual places and subcultures they usually roam and look in Americas hidden corners for White men who live completely beyond the normal experiences of all people in our culture? -
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Re: Black Racists
Tue, May 12, 2009 - 4:35 PMWell Russell you too have some interesting points. I grew in a fairly white middle class SF bay area suburb. I had freinds from various ethic groups. Race wasn't an issue till we got to high school. Then there was an influx of different minorities from the cities. Then we had issues. It was wierd for us becuase we were expected to hang out with people of our own color just because we were the same color, not that we had anything in common. I probably have more in common with you that just being American. I wanted a good education, good job, have nice friends and things, meet some to love and share my life with, live in a nice neighborhood with good schools etc. See where I'm going with this. If we would just talk to each other we would find this out. This is what I do. I married a white guy for 8 years, had a son, divorces that guy, lived with another white guy for 11 years. I am single and date outside my race.
My first taste of blant racism was in Berkeley. I was with a white boyfriend and two young black males started harassing us. Then pushing and shoving him. I jumped in to help my man just like any good woman would do. They were surprised at this and by then security showed up. They asked if we wanted to file a complaint. I said yes. Again they were surprised becasue they thought I would just slink away. Buy I believe in making a stand for what you believe in and what they did was wrong. They need to feel the consequences of their actions are they would think it was okay and do it again. That was in the late 70's and I still can remember the hurst and betrayal I felt. Blacl people weren't suppose to be like that. This was exactly how hwite people tried us. That was an eye opener
About 5 years ago I was attending a munch(meeting/lunch) for people of color and those who loved them. when I attended by myself it was fine and enjoyed myself. The next time I went I went with my Dom, who was white. It was interesting. The host who was black had a issue with my white Dom. He had no problems with the white submissive men there with their black FemDoms or with his own white female submissive. He talked about "The Man" , slavery. and other things that were HIS issue not mine. He also didn't like white FemDom with black male submissive men. I have not been bad and I don't recommend the munch.
That is a few of my experiences. Do I let it bother me? No not my issue. -
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Re: Black Racists
Wed, May 13, 2009 - 11:33 AMits strange when you have friends of different races growing up, then when you get to high school everybody goes back to their own race. is it just or me, when we get older we tend to go back to being with our race? if so, why bother being friends with ppl from different ethnic groups? i prefer to have friends from different ethnic groups anyway. -
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Re: Black Racists
Wed, May 13, 2009 - 3:56 PMIt was peer pressure. Let's face it in high school you either conform or you're on the outside. I didn't conform, continued to make friends with all races and was picked on. And I mean cornered in the bathroom as they tried to "set me straight" . All that did was give me a fear of black females. I learned to use the bathroom in the locker room. Looking back I guess I was a "danger" to thier way of thinking so they tried to convince me. Then bully me and then physical education was deemed necassary. It didn't work. And guess what ? At our 20 year class resuion these same females wanted to be my friend. I guess they got out into the real world and found thier way didn't work. Plus I had relationships with most of the people attending because I had been involved with sports, honor groups, class government, etc.,all those "white" activities.
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